The Parable of Relationships – Part 1
Friendships play a pivotal role in shaping our experiences and they influence our emotions. However, sometimes we are disappointed and angered when those we expected to stand with us fail to do so.
‘When things are good, you have many friends, when things are bad, you know your true friends’ – Unknown.
‘No one can help you unless power has been given to that individual to help you’ – Toluwaleyi Ojesina.
The Expectation
At the height of my sickness, God sent help. Those who were aware rallied around. However, I expected someone, in particular, to stand by me and be there 24-7. Don’t mind me, I am spoilt. The more I looked, the less I saw this person around. I did not get the phone calls I was expecting, I did not get as many visits as I would have wanted. Anger caught me, one morning I went to God in prayer and I cried to God.
On March 2017, I told God I felt used and abused, I felt like the relationship was one-sided and it seemed like this person did not care the way I wanted. My expectations had been very dashed, I wept and moved on. I did not hear God speak back.
Divine Clarity
In November 2017, the answer came loud and clear. I was on my way to the restaurant when the Holy Spirit began to minister to me. Here is the conversation:
“Oluwatoyin, what is the law of sowing and reaping?”, He asked
“Well, seed time and harvest will not cease”, I replied.
“Do you expect your harvest to come from where you sowed?”, He asked again
” Not necessarily, it can come from anywhere”, I answered
“So, why are you fretting? Why were you angry at this person?
The Holy Spirit gave me a new perspective,
Here you are trying to get your strength back. you can barely do much at the restaurant but I have raised 2 people in Lara and Seun to help you. You are at peace, you can heal. Think of all the people you have met through this person you are not pleased with. A good number of them are at your beck and call ensuring that you are doing well. THAT IS A HARVEST. Let it go. I have not sent this person to help you at this time.”
I was silent. Yikes. In total surrender, I lifted my hands in the car and told the Holy Spirit ” I love you”.
What are the Lessons Here?
- Embrace Grace and Forgiveness.
- Release Unrealistic Expectations.
- Recognize the true nature of Friendship.
- Trust in God’s Divine Timing.
Let go and let God connect you with the ones He has chosen to be with you in every season in your life.
How do you deal with such situations in your life?
xoxo